When the Picture Changes

Zig Ziglar changed my life.

True story… He did. Way back when…

I was about 7 years old the first time I heard about his red head. She was sitting in the audience with a little boy about my age, and my mother was wearing the same exact white blouse that she was wearing. I remember this clearly, because my mother must have had a dozen of those blouses in her closet (she wore them with black pencil skirts) and I always thought she looked pristine.

When Zig Ziglar introduced the red head, I remember thinking she looked pristine too.

And then, I had another thought.. I wanted to wear a black pencil skirt.

I’m going to tell you right now that I’ve never in my entire life, from that day until this one, half a century later, owned a pencil skirt of any color. EVER.

That skirt would not fit on this body. EVEN in the size 8 that my mother wore back then… Even back then, I wasn’t wearing pencil skirts.

I was a well rounded version of my mother, and pencil skirts just weren’t in my picture.

Thirty years later, when I saw Zig Ziglar for the last time, I was wearing a yellow pleated skirt that smoothly fell in fluid pleats from the waist band to flow over the massive proportions of my well rounded bottom, and swish rhythmically around my legs. Had the cartoonist drawn my derriere on that day, I’m quite certain there would have been a convex line across my backside to indicate the rather well endowed curve he needed to imply there. Pencil skirts were not in my picture.

Skinny Jeans

Neither were skinny jeans…

And then, this morning… I read through a list of facebook posts and several of them included pictures of ‘last year’ and pictures of ‘this year’ and I realized… One of the girls said she’s wearing a lot of skinny jeans this year – and she hadn’t been wearing them, a year ago. It has to start somewhere. Why not now?

I want to wear skinny jeans.

If I change the picture TODAY…

If I change the picture today, and every day from now until next year on June 6, I continue looking at that picture and seeing skinny jeans, pencil skirts, and a healthy slim body in place of the one that I might see if I took a picture today… Perhaps, I’ll see a different picture. Perhaps, I can SEE that picture now.

Because like Zig Ziglar says, “When the picture changes, everything changes.”

Tom says it a bit differently, “One of the realities of life is that when you see a successful person what you are really seeing is a person standing on a big pile of circumstances rather than being buried by them.” 

Today, right now… I’m changing my view of myself.

When the picture changes…

Who’s with me?

I have a plan and it looks like this:

picture changes1 – For the next year, I’m going to say YES to myself. Yes, to exercise. Yes, to better food choices. Yes, to more interaction with other people. Yes, to family and friends. Yes, to living well. YES, to ME.

2 – I’m going to start today I’m going to change my first bad habit of the morning – every morning – and start my day with feeling good about the woman I am. No more negatives. It’s all good. It’s all positive. It’s all about improving myself, every day, in every way.

picture changes3 – I’m going to stop demanding so much of myself that I can’t achieve it, and start loving who I am, right now.

I love me… How about you? Do you like who you are right now?

Please, leave a comment below telling me one amazing thing about yourself that you absolutely LOVE right now.

Encourage me…

Finding the Message Inside Your Passion

Randomly, I invite a guest to post their story on my site, and today I’ve invited Ryan Biddulph to share his story about how a crashed website due to hosting rules changed his life, and his blogging style. Below you’ll find his story, and his bio. Please do read his story and share something about your own story.

Ryan BiddulphRyan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon.

Ryan can help you build a successful blog with the 11 Fundamentals of Successful Blogging Audio Course.

I freaked out in Fiji.

In 2014 I faced a crossroads. My web host took down my blog. I had to either delete 1000 posts to get my blog back online or trash the blog and my cash flow streams.

At 2:30 AM, after discovering this career-changing circumstance while suffering through jet lag, I made a bold decision.

I chose to honor my passion.

I had circled the globe for the 3 years prior. I genuinely loved blogging. I was genuinely sick of my old blog.

So instead of trying to keep my “make money online plus 50 topic” blog alive and unwell I followed my passion.

I trashed the old blog. 3,400 posts, cash flow streams, and all.

I created Blogging From Paradise.

I decided to help my readers retire to a life of island hopping through smart blogging.

My prime passion is blogging. I love it. So I decided to teach people how to blog. But I added a passionate twist to the equation. I love traveling too. So I worked my exotic world travels into my brand as well, creating an authentic brand fueled my love and fun.

Things took off. Fast. I saw an income spike. I wrote 2 best selling eBooks on Amazon. I later went on a creative tear and wrote 126 Blogging From Paradise eBooks.

I was featured on some of the world’s most famous blogs, from Richard Branson’s Virgin blog, to Forbes, to Entrepreneur to the Huffington Post. I spoke at NYU. I was even featured on Fox News online. Just this past week I contributed as a guest poster to Positively Positive and Lifehack Dot Org.


How did I make the quantum leap from middle of the road, average blogger to established blogging pro featured on top blogs?

I found the message inside of my passion.

You may be terrified to follow your passion because you’ve no clue what to do with it. Or maybe you have no clue in Hades how following your passion benefits you.

Keep these ideas in mind to mine the miraculous message in your deepest passion.

Your Calling to Something Bigger than You

I ain’t gonna lie; a little over 3 years back I mainly did stuff online to serve me. I looked out for A1. Most of the time.

Sure I helped folks. I enjoyed assisting others. But since my passion did not lead me or drive me my online gig was mainly about me.

I did a 180 with Blogging From Paradise. I was led by passion.

I quickly saw a clear, distinct message in my passion: when you follow your love you are called into a role much bigger than just providing for yourself.

Example; today, I could do a bit of work, make some money, pay bills, put food on my table and fund my travels. All my needs met. Cool.

But instead, I woke at about 7 AM and after a rigorous morning self-help routine (meditation, ice-cold shower, exercise and stretching) I began my blogging day with an intent to follow my fun and to serve as many folks as possible.

This is the 3rd guest post I am writing today. Already commented on a ton of top blogs. I completed and scheduled my next post on Blogging From Paradise. I helped folks on the Warrior Forum and Quora. I just promoted my guest post on Lifehack and am still responding to folks who are engaging on my post at Positively Positive, connecting with members of these collective 4 million fan communities.

My blogging journey is much bigger than me since I followed my passion.

Tighten Up Your Niche

Note the word: passion. Singular. Not plural.

When I trashed my old blog I released on all niches. Save 1.

Your passion is specialization, on steroids. Meaning the energy and attention you devote to following your singular passion forces you to release on all other niches.

This is a good thing. Experts tighten up their niches, devote all of their attention and energy to learning and working their niche inside out and maximize their profits by trimming the niche fat.

Boost Profits through Specializing

When I tried to work multiple niches with my old blog I had a tough time making money online. Nobody is good enough or driven enough to master and profit through multiple niches simultaneously.

But the day I chose to follow my singular passion I instantly made more money through my blog, quite easily.

Such is the power of profiting through specializing, and you usually specialize when you follow your singular passion.

Your passion screams at you: do this 1 thing you love, do it well and when you do it well and gain a rep in your niche people will pay you to help them through your products and services.

Ryan Biddulph was born in Plainfield, New Jersey. After being employed in a series of corporate jobs Ryan worked for 4 years as a security guard at Port Newark, NJ before being downsized. He went on to become globe trotting professional blogger who owns the website Blogging from Paradise.

Your Turn

What messages are you finding in your passion?