“Where do we enroll in Life 101? Where are the classes dealing with the loss of a job, the death of a loved one, the failure of a relationship? Unfortunately, those lessons are mostly learned through trial by fire and the school of hard knocks.”
― Les Brown
Are you stuck in a battle of fighting off your previous choices in life?
It’s true, choices do have consequences, but Zig Ziglar offered hope for those who were stuck in that battle when he said, “Don’t let the mistakes and disappointments of the past, control and direct your future.”
You have alternatives. You can make new choices.
Ollie Johnson was a student in a small rural community. In 2nd grade her uncle passed away, the victim of a horrible accident, followed by a grandparent just after her 11th birthday. Then in high school, when her best friend committed suicide, Ollie couldn’t justify living a life blessed with happiness, and she sought out choices that brought sadness almost daily. Her life became representative of the misery she felt inside, and she made sure that everyone around her knew of her miserable state of existence.
When her parents divorced during her first year of college, even though she had the ability to continue her education, Ollie dropped out of school and became a recluse. She holed up in the home of a friend where she became the mistress of her friend’s father, a married man. He blessed her with expensive toys, an apartment, a car, and all the trappings of a “good life” bound and tethered to his demands. Since he was married and not available to her all the time, Ollie found ways to entertain other married, older men, and benefit from their generosity.
Ollie had what some may have referred to as “a good life” with plenty of money in the bank, a nice apartment, luxury trappings, and a car that allowed her to travel where she pleased.
At age 27, Ollie realized she was pregnant and didn’t know who the father might be.
Ollie had another choice to make. She could keep her baby, change her life and become the mother she would have wanted, or she could take her baby’s life.
Outside the abortion clinic, Ollie met a man named Roger who told her about Jesus, forgiveness, and making good choices. He said, “You may think you’ve ruined your life and it can’t be fixed, but I’m here to tell you that you don’t have that much power. God has a bigger plan, and if you’re willing to let him, HE can and will turn your life around.”
Ollie went home that day, sold much of her belongings, and moved to a small town in a neighboring state. By using the funds she had left, she was able to take care of herself and her baby girl, and take a class at the local college. She found a church family and got involved in making better choices, worked at a local shop part time and eventually contacted her mother.
Last time I talked to her, she was happily married to a sweet young man, and they were expecting their third child. Her parents have been together again for almost eight years, and their family relationships are stronger, and growing.
At first, Ollie kept her life a secret, scared that if she revealed the choices she’d made, nobody would forgive her, and she’d be an outcast. Shortly after the birth of her second child, she revealed the truth of her life after college, to her husband and to her parents. Her husband adopted her daughter, and their lives have been blessed even more.
Ollie made many bad choices, and she’s had consequences to deal with due to her choices, but when she chose to turn her life around, the bad choices stopped and she’s been able to live a good life. Her past occasionally comes back to haunt her, but she learned her lessons and has turned her life around for good. She doesn’t allow the mistakes of the past to change her course now. She knows she can make better choices.
Ollie’s story can help many young women to make better choices. Her story may even help you to know that you don’t have to let the mistakes of the past ruin all your tomorrows.
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